Why Your Body Says Yes When You Want to Say No: The Somatic Truth About People-Pleasing
Understanding People-Pleasing as a Nervous System Pattern, Not a Character Flaw Your friend asks for a favor. Before your mind even processes the request, your body has already responded: shoulders tensing, breath quickening, jaw clenching—and then your mouth says “yes” while every cell in your body screams “no.” You leave the conversation feeling exhausted, resentful, […]
The Child Who Became Responsible Too Soon: Understanding Parentification Through the Body
When Your Shoulders Remember What Your Mind Tries to Forget Do your shoulders feel like they’re carrying the weight of the world? Does your jaw clench unconsciously when someone asks you for help—even though you’ll inevitably say yes? Do you struggle to take a full, deep breath, as if your body won’t allow you to […]
Understanding People-Pleasing: The Hidden Psychology Behind Approval Addiction
By Abi Beri, Integrative Holistic Therapist What Is People-Pleasing Really? People-pleasing goes far beyond being considerate or helpful. It’s a compulsive behavioral pattern where your sense of safety and self-worth becomes entirely dependent on others’ approval. Unlike healthy accommodation, people-pleasing involves systematically abandoning your authentic needs, desires, and boundaries to avoid conflict or potential rejection. […]
