The Person You’ve Been Waiting For Is You: Neediness, Limerence, and the Nervous System Truth About Love
There is a story you have been watching your entire life. Person is fine. Functional. Capable. Doing reasonably well on their own — until they meet someone. At which point the music swells, the lighting improves, and the person discovers what was missing. What makes them complete. What they were, without knowing it, waiting for […]
The Fawn Response: When Your Survival Strategy Was to Please
Let me ask you something. When you walk into a room, what is the first thing you do? If you are anything like the person this piece is for, you scan. Instantly, automatically, without thinking about it. Who is there. What mood they are in. Whether there is tension. What might be needed. What might […]
When Love Feels Like Danger: Understanding and Healing Relational Trauma
By Abi Beri — Nervous System & Trauma Specialist | BlissfulEvolution.com | SomaticTherapyIreland.com There’s a particular kind of loneliness that doesn’t come from being alone. It comes from being in a relationship — or wanting one — while something inside you braces, pulls back, or waits for the floor to give way. Maybe you’ve noticed […]
Interoception: The Hidden Superpower Your Body Uses to Guide Every Decision
Introduction: Your Body’s Secret Intelligence Network Most people know about the five senses, but there’s a sixth sense that neuroscientists are calling the most important one for mental health and decision-making: interoception. This is your body’s ability to sense its internal state – from hunger and thirst to the subtle gut feelings that guide your […]
Understanding People-Pleasing: The Hidden Psychology Behind Approval Addiction
By Abi Beri, Integrative Holistic Therapist What Is People-Pleasing Really? People-pleasing goes far beyond being considerate or helpful. It’s a compulsive behavioral pattern where your sense of safety and self-worth becomes entirely dependent on others’ approval. Unlike healthy accommodation, people-pleasing involves systematically abandoning your authentic needs, desires, and boundaries to avoid conflict or potential rejection. […]
