When Healing Doesn’t Look Like Healing: What Your Nervous System Needs You to Know
You’ve done the therapy. The breathwork. The journaling. The inner child work. The meditation apps and the self-help books and the workshops. And you still hurt. If that’s you, I want to say something important: You are not failing at healing. The model is failing you. As a somatic therapist working with clients in Dublin, […]
Holding Space: Why Being Witnessed Is the Healing We’ve Been Missing
“I don’t know why this happened to you. But I can hold this for you.” Let that sentence land for a moment. If you’ve found your way to this article, chances are you’re carrying something. Something heavy. Something you’ve tried to understand, tried to explain, tried to make sense of. And maybe — after all […]
Understanding Your Nervous System States: A Complete Guide to Polyvagal Theory and Self-Regulation
Have you ever wondered why you snap at the people you love most? Why your mind goes completely blank in important meetings? Or why some days you feel unstoppable, while others you can barely drag yourself out of bed? The answer isn’t willpower. It isn’t a character flaw. And it certainly isn’t something wrong with […]
The Hidden Cost of Living for Others: How Societal Expectations Dysregulate Your Nervous System
Understanding the somatic experience of performance and the path to authentic living Have you ever noticed a particular tension that settles into your shoulders when you’re about to do something you “should” do rather than something you want to do? Or the way your breath becomes shallow when you’re performing a version of yourself that […]
Why You Feel Anxious (Even When Everything’s ‘Fine’): Understanding Your Emotions & Nervous System
You wake up at 3am with your heart racing. Your chest feels tight. Your mind is spinning with worries about work, relationships, money, health—everything and nothing all at once. But here’s the thing: logically, everything is fine. Nothing catastrophic happened. No major crisis occurred. And yet, your body is screaming danger. You’ve probably tried the […]
The Intelligence of Your Shutdown Response: Why Freezing Isn’t Weakness—It’s Survival
Understanding the Freeze Response as Sophisticated Survival I want to share a story from my practice that I think about often. A client—I’ll call her Sarah—came to me deeply frustrated with herself. She kept saying: “I don’t understand why I freeze up. I know I should speak up for myself. I know I should say […]
The Child Who Became Responsible Too Soon: Understanding Parentification Through the Body
When Your Shoulders Remember What Your Mind Tries to Forget Do your shoulders feel like they’re carrying the weight of the world? Does your jaw clench unconsciously when someone asks you for help—even though you’ll inevitably say yes? Do you struggle to take a full, deep breath, as if your body won’t allow you to […]
Understanding People-Pleasing: The Hidden Psychology Behind Approval Addiction
By Abi Beri, Integrative Holistic Therapist What Is People-Pleasing Really? People-pleasing goes far beyond being considerate or helpful. It’s a compulsive behavioral pattern where your sense of safety and self-worth becomes entirely dependent on others’ approval. Unlike healthy accommodation, people-pleasing involves systematically abandoning your authentic needs, desires, and boundaries to avoid conflict or potential rejection. […]
Why You Can’t Stop Checking Your Phone: The Hidden Nervous System Addiction
Do you find yourself reaching for your phone without even thinking? That familiar pull toward your device when you’re trying to focus, relax, or simply be present? If you’ve ever wondered why you can’t seem to put your phone down despite knowing you should, you’re not alone – and more importantly, it’s not about lacking […]
The Body Keeps the Score: How Somatic Therapy Unlocks Your Body’s Hidden Emotional Wisdom
“The body benefits from movement, and the mind benefits from stillness. But healing happens when both work together.” – Unknown Have you ever noticed how your shoulders tense up during stressful conversations, how your stomach churns before important meetings, or how certain memories seem to live in specific parts of your body? Your body isn’t […]
