Why Self-Awareness Isn’t Enough: An Integrative Therapist’s Guide to What Comes After Seeing
If you can see your pattern but still can’t change it, you are not failing. Self-awareness is the door, not the room. A somatic and integrative therapist on what actually moves things — once you have already seen what you do. By Abi Beri | Integrative Therapist & Nervous System Specialist · Dublin & Online […]
Parentification: Signs You Were The Child Who Had To Be The Adult
You could read a room before you could read a book. And they praised you for it — which is the part that makes this so difficult to see. By Abi Beri | Integrative Therapist & Family Constellation Facilitator · In person across Dublin, Naas, Newbridge & Kildare · online worldwide TL;DR. YOU WERE NOT […]
Somatic Parts Work: Meeting The Parts Of You, Without The Vocabulary
You resolve, at eleven o’clock on a Sunday night, to do something differently — and by Tuesday afternoon somebody else entirely is running the show, and they never signed anything. By Abi Beri | Integrative Therapist & Nervous System Specialist · Dublin, Naas, Newbridge, Kildare & Online TL;DR. There is more than one of you […]
Childhood Emotional Neglect: A Somatic Therapy Guide to the Wound With No Story
If nothing bad happened in your childhood but something is quietly missing, you are not making it up. A somatic therapist on childhood emotional neglect — what it is, the specific kinds of “nothing” most people are actually describing, and what helps. By Abi Beri | Integrative Therapist & Nervous System Specialist · Dublin & […]
Being the Safe One: A Somatic Therapy Guide to Parentification and the Cost of Being the Regulated One
If you are the calm one everyone leans on, you are paying a hidden cost. A somatic therapist on parentification, the regulated-one pattern, and how to turn the capacity homeward. By Abi Beri | Integrative Therapist & Nervous System Specialist · Dublin & Online TL;DR. If several people in your life would name you first […]
Somatic Therapy vs Talk Therapy: What’s the Difference, and Which Is Right for You?
A clear, everyday-language guide to two different paths through the same difficulties — with a short audio explainer from Abi Beri. If you’ve been looking for support — for anxiety, stress, the after-effects of something hard, or just a sense of being stuck — you’ve probably come across the word “therapy” a hundred times. What […]
The Vagus Nerve Myth: Why Positive Thinking Cannot Fix A Dysregulated Nervous System
What this piece is Positive thinking cannot fix a dysregulated nervous system. Cold plunges cannot. Humming cannot. Five minutes of slow breathing on a wellness app cannot. If you’ve tried any of those, or all of them, and felt like a failure when they didn’t work, that wasn’t your failure. It was a misunderstanding. A […]
The Age You Stopped
Why You’re Emotionally Stuck at the Age You Were Hurt — and How to Bring That Age Home Here is a small, slightly strange observation worth checking against your own life. You are not one consistent age. Not on the inside. On paper you are whatever number you are — but the felt sense of […]
Childhood Emotional Neglect: Understanding the Invisible Wound That Shapes Your Adult Life
“My childhood was fine. My parents did their best. Nothing bad happened. Other people had it much worse.” If you’ve ever said these words — but still feel a persistent sense that something is wrong, that something is missing, that you’re somehow different from other people — this article might finally explain why. You may […]
Inner Child Healing Through Somatic Therapy: Why Your Body Holds the Key to Childhood Wounds
You’ve probably heard about inner child work. Perhaps you’ve read about it, journaled about it, even talked about it in therapy. You understand, intellectually, that some of your patterns come from childhood. You can trace the origins of your people-pleasing, your perfectionism, your fear of abandonment. And yet… the patterns persist. You still find yourself […]
