The Vagus Nerve Myth: Why Positive Thinking Cannot Fix A Dysregulated Nervous System
What this piece is Positive thinking cannot fix a dysregulated nervous system. Cold plunges cannot. Humming cannot. Five minutes of slow breathing on a wellness app cannot. If you’ve tried any of those, or all of them, and felt like a failure when they didn’t work, that wasn’t your failure. It was a misunderstanding. A […]
The Age You Stopped
Why You’re Emotionally Stuck at the Age You Were Hurt — and How to Bring That Age Home Here is a small, slightly strange observation worth checking against your own life. You are not one consistent age. Not on the inside. On paper you are whatever number you are — but the felt sense of […]
Your Triggers Are Not Your Enemy
They Are Your Wounded Parts Asking To Be Seen On the radical reframe of triggers as messengers rather than malfunctions, the wounded part speaking through them, and why managing your triggers will never resolve them The Way We Usually Talk About Triggers We talk about managing them. Coping with them. Avoiding them. We have trigger […]
Uncomfortable Life Transitions: A Somatic Therapy Guide to the In-Between
Why life transitions feel so unbearable, what the anthropologists called liminal space, and a practical, ancient way to stand on ground you cannot yet see. By Abi Beri | Integrative Somatic Therapist & Nervous System Specialist · Dublin & Online TL;DR. If something in your life has ended — or is ending — and the […]
Anxiety That Doesn’t Go Away: A Somatic Therapy Reframe for Coexisting With Chronic Anxiety
If your anxiety has stayed despite years of therapy, books and breathwork, you are not failing. Most of the wellness world has been answering the wrong question — and the better answer is older, gentler, and far more peaceful than another protocol. By Abi Beri | Integrative Somatic Therapist & Nervous System Specialist · Dublin […]
The Person You’ve Been Waiting For Is You: Neediness, Limerence, and the Nervous System Truth About Love
There is a story you have been watching your entire life. Person is fine. Functional. Capable. Doing reasonably well on their own — until they meet someone. At which point the music swells, the lighting improves, and the person discovers what was missing. What makes them complete. What they were, without knowing it, waiting for […]
Stop Overgiving: Boundaries, People-Pleasing and Coming Back to Yourself
Many people think boundaries are about becoming stronger, firmer or more able to say no. While this can be part of the journey, boundaries are much deeper than words. A boundary is not only a sentence. It is an inner relationship with yourself. It is the moment you begin to notice what is true for […]
Rejection Sensitivity Isn’t an Overreaction: A Somatic Therapy View on Why Silence Hurts So Much
If a delayed text can ruin your afternoon, your nervous system isn’t broken — it’s hypervigilant. Here is the body-based path back to safety. By Abi Beri | Somatic Therapist & Integrative Practitioner, Dublin & Online Picture this. Someone you care about texts you. It is shorter than usual. No emoji. Just the words. And […]
Executive Dysfunction Isn’t Laziness: A Somatic Therapy View on Why You Can’t Start
When your brain won’t do the thing, you’re not weak — your nervous system is in shutdown. Here’s the body-based path back online. By Abi Beri | Somatic Therapist & Integrative Practitioner, Dublin & Online There is something you need to do. You know what it is. You know how to do it. It is […]
The Fawn Response: When Your Survival Strategy Was to Please
Let me ask you something. When you walk into a room, what is the first thing you do? If you are anything like the person this piece is for, you scan. Instantly, automatically, without thinking about it. Who is there. What mood they are in. Whether there is tension. What might be needed. What might […]
